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  • Writer's pictureJordan Drayer

You Make Me Who I am (and Vice Versa)

Malchut of Yesod

Hi everyone, Jordan Drayer, the savvy millennial voice actress who is learning to maintain bonds with dignity. Today is five weeks and seven days of the Omer. This is the last day of week six, and then we only have one week left! If you want to know more about the Omer and how it works, check out the links in the description.

Today is Malchut of Yesod, dignity of and through bonding. Like all of these sefirot, the end-all-be-all of bonding is that it enhance a person's dignity, yours and the one you bond with. The people you bond with make you a better person. It's people helping people, rising tides raise all boats, show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.

Does your bonding inhibit the expression of your personality and qualities? If you think you've bonded with a person yet can't show your full self because of their influence, this would be like the enabler in a co-dependent or addictive relationship. If you look up attachment styles, only one out of four is really secure, which probably means a majority of people might have trouble being themselves in relationships. For me, yes, I'm still getting over people pleasing and fear of others' anger, so even with friends I trust, I'm afraid of making them angry by voicing my negative emotions.

Stand up for yourself... or even do standup...

Another question, does your bonding overwhelm the other person? I've answered yes to this before. Not everyone of course, but those people I really thought were cool and worthy of my friendship, sometimes they just didn't want to be friends, or I guess I tried too hard and they didn't like being asked to do stuff so much. I feel like, because of being a twin, I have a capacity to go so deep with others that they just aren't willing to do, and I fear I'll never find the person I can be 100% myself with, except for my twin. I have to believe there's a husband out there for me though who will be my truest confidant.

Today's exercise is to emphasize and highlight the strengths of one you bond with. You could even say it out loud to them like that couple in the movie "Just Go With It," always telling each other what they like about each other. I'll probably write a list and give it to my sister, or do several for different friends, maybe even do one of the imaginary husband I'm manifesting. Thank you so much for making it through six weeks! We have only one left, so please like and even share this video, and I'll see you tomorrow!

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