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  • Writer's pictureJordan Drayer

Loving Bonds

Chesed of Yesod

Hi everyone, Jordan Drayer, the savvy millennial voice actress who bonds through playing games with others and listening. We are at the beginning of a new week, six out of seven! We say today is five weeks and one day of the Omer. If you want to know more about the Omer and how it works, check out the links in the description.

All this week, we're looking at Yesod, which is about bonding and foundation. This is connecting through both feeling for another and being attached to them. It is an affirmation, reinforcing the sense that you matter. Of course, yeah, every one person is enough, and inner acceptance, and all the other things you learn in acting classes. I do think it's easier to feel that though when you are told how much you matter to another person.

Yesod takes all of the previous sefirot, or as you look at the picture, the above sefirot, because you need all of these things to truly bond. You need love, discipline, compassion, humility, and endurance. Not surprisingly, talking about foundation and bonding, when put over the body, Yesod corresponds to the sexual organs.

As usual, we begin with the Chesed aspect, the loving-kindness of bonding. Obviously you can not bond without love. If you work alongside a person in a business sense for many years, yet don't know anything about their personal life or really care about them beyond their usefulness in business, that's probably not a bond. That's just a partnership.

And of course, we can't be best friends with everyone, and sometimes people want to keep business and personal lives separate. So we're not going to push that but instead look at how we bond in general.

If you have a problem bonding, examine how you love the person or even the object you wish to bond with. Do you try to bond without first fostering a loving attitude, or is it expressed in a loving manner? I do believe so. I show I'm a good listener, want to learn more, ask questions.

But I have felt I try hard to get to know a person, and they just don't reciprocate. I'm trying to bond with them, learn stuff about them, go out with them (and I mean in a friendship way, not dating), and it just doesn't work. Past roommates come to mind. It's like they just don't want to be known, so I suppose this is a different level to love. I must respect their wishes, and also show love to myself in not wasting my time on them.

Today's exercise is to demonstrate a bond you have to someone else through an act of love. Usually for me, this is giving or making gifts or simply calling a person just to talk, not related to any holiday or special event. An act of love may be up to interpretation, based on your love language, and I'd say make sure they know why you're doing it, be it the words of affirmation, acts of service, or any other. Thank you for watching. You can bond with me by liking and sharing this video! I'll see you tomorrow.

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