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  • Writer's pictureJordan Drayer

Bonding is a Long Road

Netzach of Yesod

Hi everyone, Jordan Drayer, the savvy millennial voice actress who is learning healthy endurance in bonding. Today is five weeks and four days of the Omer. If you want to know more about the Omer and how it works, check out the links in the description.

Today is Netzach of Yesod, the endurance of bonding. Bonding does not happen overnight. It's a series of events, gifts, maybe even arguments. You can hit it off with one person at a party, but if you never see them again, it's not bonding.

Sometimes this is why I'm kind of fatalist in the way I make friends. If I know the chance is highly likely I'm never going to see that person again, I either don't talk to them or am more myself with them. A stranger next to me on an airplane is a good example. But for those that are in my life, I do my best to maintain my important friendships and family relationships. I call, I write, I give gifts, I plan time to see them. How committed are you to the ones you bond with?

Another thing, how much will you endure and how ready are you to fight to maintain the bond? With some people, if you see them not reciprocating, you have to determine for yourself how much longer you want to put your energy towards them.

What about the opposite, when you can see a person is trying hard to hang out with you? Do you reward their tenacity or not? For me, that depends on the person; some people I simply don't want to hang out with. I try to maintain a philosophy that everyone starts at a level 0 and they can only go up or down from there, and if I see too many things I don't like, I don't want them as a friend. Maybe they're a great colleague, but they're not someone I would play board games with.

Today's exercise is to demonstrate the endurance of a bond by confronting a challenge that obstructs the bond. Maybe it's simply distance. Maybe you need to work through a blunder you made or they made.

For me, I often get annoyed when people aren't able to do things as fast or do them at all, as I would have expected them to. This is professional bias where, because you know something, you expect others to know it. So I need to learn how to be more patient and somehow get less annoyed at people if I want to make more friends in general. I do a good job of hiding my feelings, but it'd be better not to feel that annoyance in the first place. Thank you, please like and share, and I'll see you tomorrow!

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